Been hearing a good friend, a colleague and 2 underwriters talk about Tinder so I decided see for myself, what’s the deal about it.
After 24h on Tinder, I can confirm that:
1. There are more men than women (I ran out of women to look at!)
2. Women have better profile pics.
3. People active in sports look considerably younger than others the same age.
4. Many men are balding.
What surprised me too is that I came across 2 friends from church whom I didn’t expect to see. *Shrugs*. Maybe they’re experimenting too.
End of experiment for me. I’ve disable the account.
21 Sep 2014
Must be careful of arms – drop the ballroom frame!
16 Sep 2014
1. Remember the stretch on the anchor.
2. Remember to end turns under-rotated.
31 Aug 2014
Need to clean up basics. Triple steps need to be more purposeful.
Engage core by lengthening ribcage.
Rotate more to cut distance and post earlier.
26 Aug 2014
So it occurred to me that since improving in a partner dance basically comprises of making a series of adjustments, I should keep a “running dance notes” to track the little lessons and take-aways I glean with every practice session and social I go for.
So… During practice last night, TM pointed out to me that I need to “lock” my lower back so that my legs don’t lag when the guy leads an accelerated move.
During social tonight, I was quite happy when someone I usually find it difficult to connect consistently with told me that he likes the stretch in my dancing.
Good ol’ Zee also told me that I should take my time for counts 1 & 2 but be quicker on my triples when moving past the lead as it will help me re-establish connection better.
I also need to pay attention to when the lead wants gives me a short anchor vs a long one instead of always moving to the ideal anchor I have in my head.
The older i get, the more the term “opportunity cost” hits home. I’m acutely aware that for every choice i make, i lose something at the same time. For e.g., everytime i choose to go dancing instead of visiting Pinky, i lose a couple of hours i could be with him, and i’m fully aware that being a very old bunny, he may pass on anytime. And so every decision i make is shaped by the consideration of what can i less afford to lose.
The same extends to my interactions with people. I’ve come to conclude that rather than being friends with a large number of people, i’ll rather be good friends with a few. I place much higher value on how meaningful a friendship is than how many people i can profess to be “friends” with. This has resulted in me cleaning up and “unfriending” people regularly on Facebook because i do not want their updates to crowd out the updates of those i cherish more on my timeline. I also think these people do not need to know about what’s going on in my life.
I think i may offend some people this way but my capacity to care is limited.
Made a bet with Champion last night. The wager is 1 Kronenbourg Blanc. Champion thinks I will make it to squad 3 months after squad restarts. I think it’ll be longer. Lol. We’ll see!
People who don’t do things wholeheartedly irritate me. To me, if I choose to do something, I’ll go all out to do it. If I’m not convicted to do something, I won’t proceed at all. And this applies to everything – not just at work but also on Sundays when I’m on duty for service. Then I thought to myself… maybe I’m being too task oriented and there are people who are passive / not proactive by nature hence they always appear to be neither in nor out.
Then there’s the issue of what to wear to church. Are shorts acceptable? My struggle is, since God is with and sees us all the time, if wearing shorts is acceptable outside church, then why not in church? That said, I still think it’s too casual. On one hand, one could say if one would dress to a certain level of formality for work, then one should do the same going to church. However, God looks at the heart so is this a man imposed norm formed out of vanity? I’m undecided.
My colleagues sometimes ask why do I always go for dance lessons. Last week my boss specifically asked why is there a need to dance every week if I’m not preparing for any competitions?
I couldn’t verbalise it on the spot but having considered the question, I think my answer would be that dancing is a learned reaction. Because different guys will lead differently, because songs have different breaks and feel, because different partnerships will result in different patterns and moves, the only way to widen one’s dance horizon / dance arsenal is to dance more.
In addition, we all have different bad habits to change and the only way to break a bad habit is to reinforce the correct or good habit. And reinforcement means lots and lots of repetition. As
I’ve always said, practice makes permanent. Hence, one needs to repeat classes to pick up the correct technique. And in order to internalise what was learnt, repetition is needed.
Coming back from the US, I was curious what has changed in my dancing and I found out today that the main difference was that my upper and lower body was well engaged. Sadly, it seems that I’m starting to revert to my pre-US level and I’ve been “leaving my legs behind”, especially when I’m tired.
I think I need to learn how to self-diagnose my various dancing problems on a daily basis. For starters, this is a note to self not to leave my legs behind when I’m tired.
On a brighter note, I’m starting to get the hand of doing skaters! Yippee! Very grateful to EW for teaching me and to Kono for practising with me for 15-20 min last night! Managed to do 6 turns within a dance tonight and it was great!
Gosh! June has gone by in a flash. Was probably one of the busiest month at work and the 2-week trip to the US meant I was extra busy before (to clear as much work as I could before I went on leave) and even busier after (as I sought to go through 1000 unread e-mails).
The US trip was great though. This being my first overseas West Coast Swing (WCS) trip, I was pretty thankful that I was travelling with a group of easygoing folks. Having my longtime friend and instructor, Zee, also helped!
Here’re the highlights of the trip!
Liberty Swing (New Jersey)
Elements @ Camelback Mountain (Phoenix)
Joyce, one of the ladies I was travelling with, did good research and found this restaurant called Elements. It scores on both the food as well as the views! (I think it’s one some travel list’s Top 35 Restaurants with a View or something). It’s DEFINITELY worth going!
Phoenix 4th of July Convention
Will I go on another dance trip again? Yes I would! But first, I really need to brush up on my dancing. Felt quite inadequate at the socials though at least I take comfort that my following was good!
My 35th birthday has come & gone in a flash. A couple of months back, I was kind of hung up over it – 35 years old – that’s like the age that tells what the rest of your life will be. Your career path’s probably fixed, are you the family type, etc. Even the government has set 35 as the age singles can buy a HDB flat!
I was on leave today. Pampered myself by getting an eyeliner embroidery (done by Lydia from Browhaus at Raffles City basement. Very good! Hardly any pain), shopping & getting a massage. Feeling quite accomplished as I bought 1 pair of Geox Working shoes, 2 dresses (and got a top free).
All that physical activity was followed by a scrumptious dinner at Ola Cocina at MBFC Tower 3. And dessert was an Awfully Chocolate chocolate cake (duh) that my mom bought, paired with prosecco wine.
Here’re some shots of the yummy dinner!
It as a wonderful day!