Leaving No Stones Unturned

I think i’ve left quite a few cryptic posts here recently.  The reason is that i’ve been thinking of breaking up with my bf for some time now… since May… since the post about the cheng teng dessert… and i finally spoke to him about it.  At first i wasn’t sure if i was making the right decision but the more things unravel, the more certain i made the right choice.

It really irks me when people try to use emotional blackmail on me.  Yes, it may work for a very short while, while my heart’s still a little soft and i may give in a little… but the minute it becomes clear that it’s emotional blackmail, i get very put off.  Never ever play the sympathy card… plus sympathy is not love.

I have also met someone new recently.  His profile pretty much fits my ideal type and he’s not a bad person.  Really not (Senior from 07/95, i get what u mean now).  He’s not the type who would intentional hurt a person.  However, after a very honest & open chat with him, i realised that his character / personality is exactly like my Qingfu’s!!  So i concluded that we’re the type who would make fantastic friends, but that’s all there is to it. 

Damnit!

4 thoughts on “Leaving No Stones Unturned”

  1. When you least expect it, you will find someone who treats you really well, and you will fall in love. Sorry about the break-up. Screw him.

    Hey….Why do I always sound like a zen master on your blog?

    But I was kinda right about the job thing wasn’t I?

  2. snarkolepsy, b4 u actually relised what the actual facts are based on. It good that you shouldn’t make a comment like screw him. How will you know that the bf didnt treat her well. How will you know that the break up was because of him and not the blog owner herself. Your self-proclaimed zen master is a failure. Learn to look deeper into things to relise that the victim of the whole incident is the guy. For all you know that the guy has been the emotional victim and wasnt even thinking of the emotional blackmail at all.

  3. Snarkolepsy – “Let Go” erm, is the person u said to screw. 😛

    I decided to let this comment pass ‘cos i thought everyone deserves to have their say.

    I could dwell on tons of reasons for the breakup, as well as present all my reasons for talking about emotional blackmail. But i don’t think that’s necessary, nor pleasant.

    Basically, what i will concede is that it takes 2 people to get together, but only 1 to breakup. Although i can name many reasons for wanting to breakup, there’s no 1 actual reason. A lot of stuff just accumulated over time and i guess when the feelings die, they die.

    Call me selfish. But i want to be with someone i’m in love with, not someone i love (as a person).

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