Funny Parents

My parents’ quirkiness struck again.

When i told my parents on Fri night about the accident, they weren’t really bothered.  They were relaxed, lying in bed watching TV… and all my mom said to me was, “Then how?”.

Well, there wasn’t really a “then how” lah since the car wasn’t damaged.  And my mom promptly went to buy 4D yesterday.  Didn’t strike last night.. haha… maybe she will strike tonight.

Told WC about the accident over MSN and she said, “Eh, u got check your boot can open or not?”

I was like WAH LAU!  Don’t like that leh.  So i went down to the car porch to check my boot.  Yes.  It CAN open.  *Rolls eyes*

Saw my dad downstairs and told him what WC said.  He laughed… and continued shooting.

Shooting?  Yes.  U read right.  Shooting.

My dad went to Toys ‘R’ Us this morning and bought a super soaker water gun.  To shoot at the birds that have been invading our garden and shitting all over the floor.  He’s still at it.  Complained to me that the gun manufacturer misrepresented… the label says that the gun can shoot 38ft or something but in actual fact, the water only reaches about 20ft.

Sigh.

Blessing in Disguise

Was just chatting with my Qingfu on MSN.  Told me that he experienced an earthquake 2 nights ago.  Happened at 4:40am, 4.5 on the Richter scale.  He woke up ‘cos his bed shook and of ‘cos the furniture in his room started moving.  But no serious damage to person nor possessions.  Which is very very fortunate.  My Qingfu also damn funny… said the first thing that crossed his mind was – “does this mean no exams?”.  Haha.  But no.. his exams are a few weeks away and they’re going on as scheduled. 

Was going to tell my Qingfu about the super suay night i had 2 nights ago (Fri night) too.  Then it suddenly hit me that i wasn’t really suay?  What happened on Fri night was this.  I was the emcee for Partner’s wedding.  When we were getting ready for the dinner, i was trying to bun up my hair when my hair clip broke.  Fine.  No biggie but that’s incident 1.

The dinner went smoothly.  After the dinner, as Azure and i was leaving the carpark, my complimentary ticket didn’t work.  In fact, my cashcard jammed too!!  Though i eventually managed to use it to pay the $10.50 parking charge and got out of the carpark.  That was incident 2.

I decided to take CTE-PIE to go home.  Traffic was bad on the CTE… slow moving traffic… which i thought never mind lah… Fri night… no hurry right?  Just be patient lor.  Then the car in front of me jammed brake.  I followed suit… but while i managed to stop in time, the guy behind me didn’t… and “Boom!”.  There was this loud sound as my bumper got hit.

Argh!  I put on my hazzard lights and got out of the car.  As i looked into my rear view mirror, i saw an Indian guy get out of the other car.  There was this sinking feeling inside me… and i steeled myself for a possible argument should the driver behind try to pin blame on me for jamming my brakes.

Thankfully, the guy turned out to be a nice, soft-spoken chap.  And the amazing thing was, though the “Boom” sound was really loud, i couldn’t see any damage to my car!! 

The guy suggested that we move our cars a little further apart so we could have a better view.  I took note of his licence plate and moved my car to the road shoulder and he followed too.  Our 2nd inspection confirmed that there was no real damage… the toyota logo of his car hit the metal strip of my bumper… there were some fine scratches within a 1cm area but that was it!  His toyota logo was slightly scratched too. 

Seeing that the damage (if u can even call it damage) was minimal, i decided to let it pass.  What was there to repair anyway right?  The guy was obviously relieved and so we headed back into our respective cars and drove off.

About 50m in front, Azure and i saw a 4-car bumper collision and guess what?  The car that caused me to jam my brakes?  He was the last car in the 4-car accident.  Wahahaha.  Azure said, “Wow.  Looks like that guy’s fated to get into an accident.”

I agreed.  Hehe.  But in retrospect, i realise (and was telling my Qingfu) that thank God i got into the minimal damage bumper incident with the car behind else i might have ended up as the 5th car in the latter accident!!

Qingfu said, “Blessing in disguise!”

Yeap!  I concur.

Irreparable

Chewbacca sent me an email saying that he observed how i’ve not been hanging out with my cellgroup recently.  I have a very strong response to that though i decided that it wasn’t necessary for me to spell it all out in my reply via email.

Simply put, i just don’t feel close to the people in my cellgroup/church.  While i’m always grateful for their prayer support (i believe they do pray about certain things when i ask them to… at least i think a few of them would), i am just not close to them. 

The cause of the distance arose from a host of reasons… legacy issues, as some would call it.  Issues like how the “3 musketeers” clique i belonged to in church disbanded after 2 of us gals had very differing opinions from the 3rd gal… and then the 2 of us who were close drifted apart after going to different JCs, and the final straw came when the other gal took sides with 1 party, and i with the other after a couple that we knew, broke up.

I was never assimilated into another group after that.  Another group i was close to… the only reason why i was close to them was ‘cos i was close to this gal, when we were in secondary school.  She had a lot of emotional problems in sec sch… and would even do things like make cuts on her arms using a pen-knife, or drown her sorrows in beer… and her sis would call me hoping that i could talk to her and help her get a grip on stuff.  Which i did… though being very different in character – i’m the sort who doesn’t tip over the edge – i was only close to her ‘cos she could confide in me?  And not ‘cos we shared the same beliefs, views, interests, etc.

In a way, u could say that it came to a point where we were only close when she had problems… but drifted apart when she was fine.  Not trying to say that she made use of me… but it’s just one of those things that happened to turn out that way.  The final straw came, however, when she got together with one of my ex-bfs.  Though it was only a brief relationship with him, it damaged our friendship irreparably.

Someone told me that some other people remarked how “strong” our friendship was… that i could work with my friend and my ex in the same team.  I could only offer a cynical snigger when i heard that.  How naive whoever the people who thought that way were… making assumptions that everything was fine.  How ignorant could they be?  Just because i didn’t let any unhappiness show, doesn’t mean i was fine with everything right?  Did no one consider that i kept my unhappiness in check because i did not want to spoil the working relationship?  How foolish to make such an assumption without asking me how i felt.

I never blogged about this on this site throughout the time when i was at my unhappiest over the entire thing… because a few people from my cellgroup still read this blog.  But since the comment’s been made about how i haven’t been hanging out with my cellgroup… then this is my answer.  Silent hurts have the longest memories.

These days, i prefer to hang out with my colleagues and some friends from school, and friends of theirs.  I enjoy their company better and i feel at ease with them.  I don’t “blame” my cellgroup / church friends per se for the rift.  I haven’t always been at my most pleasant when i’m with them.  I’m reactive in nature.. and when i don’t feel comfortable with people, i can be very testy and sarcastic. 

So there u have it.  The reasons why i’m currently traipsing the boundary of being in and not quite in the cellgroup.  Why am i saying this now when i’ve never voiced it out before?  Don’t know.  Maybe ‘cos it’s been seething within me for a long time… and all i needed was for someone to ask the right question, push the right button sort of thing.

Oh heck.  Not that i’m that bothered by it.  Time for bed.  Had a really tiring day at Partner’s wedding activities yesterday… and a super suay time last night.  Shall leave that for another post.

Goodnight.