The Power of One

Last Sunday was the last of a 4-part sermon series on the "One Thing" that pleases God.  Saw this poem in the church bulletin and liked it very much.

The Power of One

One song can spark a moment,
One flower can wake the dream.
One tree can start a forest,
One bird can herald spring.

One smile begins a friendship,
One handclasp lifts a soul.
One star can guide a ship at sea,
One word can frame the goal.

One vote can change a nation,
One sunbeam lights a room.
One candle wipes out darkness,
One laugh will conquer gloom.

One step must start each journey,
One word must start each prayer.
One hope will raise our spirits,
One touch will show you care.

One voice can speak with wisdom,
One heart can know what is true.
One life can make the difference,
You see, it’s up to you.

Catching Up

Haven’t been reading the usual blogs that i read… well, am on MC today (was told it’s "the common cold") so i decided to go do some catching up.  Found this interesting personality test from my friend’s blog.  Take it here.  My results as follows…

Your Type is
ESFJ

Extraverted
Sensing
Feeling
Judging

Strength of the preferences %

22
12
38
33

Qualitative analysis of your type formula

You are:

  • slightly expressed extravert
  • slightly expressed sensing personality
  • moderately expressed feeling personality
  • moderately expressed judging personality

 

Something more detailed…

Extraverted Sensing Feeling Judging
by Joe Butt

Profile: ESFJ
Revision: 3.0
Date of Revision: 23 Feb 2005


Guardians of birthdays, holidays and celebrations, ESFJs are generous entertainers. They enjoy and joyfully observe traditions and are liberal in giving, especially where custom prescribes.

All else being equal, ESFJs enjoy being in charge. They see problems clearly and delegate easily, work hard and play with zest. ESFJs, as do most SJs, bear strong allegiance to rights of seniority. They willingly provide service (which embodies life’s meaning) and expect the same from others.

ESFJs are easily wounded. And when wounded, their emotions will not be contained. They by nature "wear their hearts on their sleeves," often exuding warmth and bonhomie, but not infrequently boiling over with the vexation of their souls. Some ESFJs channel these vibrant emotions into moving dramatic performances on stage and screen.

Strong, contradictory forces consume the ESFJ. Their sense of right and wrong wrestles with an overwhelming rescuing, ‘mothering’ drive. This sometimes results in swift, immediate action taken upon a transgressor, followed by stern reprimand; ultimately, however, the prodigal is wrested from the gallows of their folly, just as the noose tightens and all hope is lost, by the very executioner!

An ESFJ at odds with self is a remarkable sight. When a decision must be made, especially one involving the risk of conflict (abhorrent to ESFJs), there ensues an in-house wrestling match between the aforementioned black-and-white Values and the Nemesis of Discord. The contender pits self against self, once firmly deciding with the Right, then switching to Prudence to forestall hostilities, countered by unswerving Values, ad exhaustium, winner take all.

As caretakers, ESFJs sense danger all around–germs within, the elements without, unscrupulous malefactors, insidious character flaws. The world is a dangerous place, not to be trusted. Not that the ESFJ is paranoid; ‘hyper-vigilant’ would be more precise. And thus they serve excellently as protectors, outstanding in fields such as medical care and elementary education.

Functional Analysis:

Extraverted Feeling

ESFJs live in their Extraverted Feeling functioning. Feeling, a rational (i.e., deciding) function, expresses opinions easily in the E world of objects and people. ESFJs have the ability to express warmth, rage, and a range of other emotions. Actions are encouraged or rebuked based on how they affect other people, especially people near and dear to the ESFJ. This type’s vocal decisiveness predisposes many of its number to facility with administration and supervision.

Introverted Sensing

The secondary Sensing function aids and abets the dominant Fe in that sensate data is collected and at once compared with the inner forms or standards. Data on which decisions are made are thus focused and given a contrast which tends to be stronger and clearer than the original stimuli. The strengthening effect of Si on Fe may be responsible for this type’s reputation for wearing their "hearts on their sleeves." At any rate, ESFJs reflect the "black and white" view of reality which is common to the SJ types.

Extraverted iNtuition

Intuition is tertiary–as the ESFJ matures, and as situations arise which call for suspension of criticism, Ne is allowed to play. Under the leadership of the Fe function, iNtuition allows for a loosening of the more rigid Si rights and wrongs; teasing and slapstick humor emerge. ESFJs are also capable of discerning patterns and philosophies, but such perceiving is subject to the weakness of the tertiary position, and the results often lack the variety and complexity of connections that more complex systems require.

Introverted Thinking

The inferior Ti function may rarely be expressed. In fact, ESFJs may take affront at the aloof, detached nature of dominant Ti types, or conversely, be drawn to them. Some ESFJs construct rationale which have the appearance of (Jungian) Thinking logic, but under scrutiny are in fact command performances of "Thinking in the service of Feeling," (i.e., Thinking-like conclusions which do not obey the tenets of impersonal logic; they rather construct scenarios from only those "hard, cold facts" which support the conclusion reached by the dominant Extraverted Feeling function. To wit:

You don’t sew with a fork, so I see no reason to eat
with knitting needles.
— Miss Piggy, on eating Chinese Food

Famous ESFJs:
U.S. Presidents:
William McKinley
William J. Clinton

Jack Benny
Desi Arnaz ("Ricky Ricardo")
Don Knotts ("Barney Fife")
John Connally (former Governor of Texas)
Terry Bradshaw, NFL quarterback
Sally Struthers (All in the Family)
Mary Tyler Moore
Dixie Carter (Designing Women)
Steve Spurrier, Heismann trophy winner, Univ. of Fla. football coach
Sally Field
Danny Glover, actor (Lethal Weapon movies, Predator 2 Margaret Butt
Nancy Kerrigan (U.S. olympic figureskater)
Elvis Stojko (Canadian olympic figureskater)

Fictional ESFJs:

Babbitt (Sinclair Lewis)
Hoss Cartwright (Bonanza)
Leonard "Bones" McCoy (Star Trek)
Monica (Friends)
Haleh (ER)
Donald Duck
Rabbit, Winnie the Pooh

P.S. Not sure how true the above is… except the bit about me being the "guardian of birthdays".  Hahahaha.

The Short & Long of It

Read the last post about KM’s Jap and short tongue story?? This is part 2…

BM to KM: Today we met a Japanese from the bank. Surprisingly, he has a long tongue.
KM: Really? U asked him that??

(I nearly fainted when i heard this)

BM: Of ‘cos not… (pauses)… Small Fry (me) went to find out.

KM keeps quiet… at a loss for words.

BM: No lah. We could tell ‘cos he was talking normally.

KM: Oh ok…

u are what u eat

yet another afternoon highlight.

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Bigmac: so what’s Mr. Suki like in person?  is he a nice person?

Kid’s Meal (KM): he’s quite nice.  but his English is like different.

Bigmac: well, most Japanese speak English a bit strangely.

KM: no.  i think it’s ‘cos Japs have short tongues.

Bigmac: really?  i wouldn’t know… i’ve not kissed one before.

(KM pauses.  i thought that was a damn good reply.)

KM: no.  i think it’s the food they eat. 

(food they eat?!?!).

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i have strange colleagues.

iceman & me

DSCN2850 a lot of people were curious how Iceman and i got together.  a JC classmate almost didn’t believe it and thought i was joking when he asked if we were a couple (‘cos of my MSN pic) and i said we were.  so how did we get started?  i would say it started 11 years ago in Mar 1996 but i guess we could fast forward a little…

Azure, Iceman and i were supposed to go on a holiday to HK in Aug last year. however, my boss’ wife was giving birth in Aug so i had problems taking leave. Iceman had an exam on 1 Sep and so he had to study too. in the end, we decided to go to HK in Sep, after his exams. however, Azure couldn’t make it ‘cos she just changed jobs and couldn’t take leave while on probation.

Iceman and i decided to go on the trip w/o Azure in the end. we stayed at his bro’s place and i had a really really fantastic 6 days in HK. little did i know, a flippant remark i made on the 2nd night we were there led to Iceman attempting to avoid me after we got back. i felt something was wrong… but yet i didn’t manage to get an answer from Iceman. then came the fateful drinking session at Tavern on 12 Oct 2007 (Fri). Booze Queen and i were asking the others if they wanted to move on to another pub for round 2 when Iceman said he had to go home early ‘cos he had something on the next day. despite my repeated questioning, he refused to say what he had on the next day! BQ then blurted out, “Don’t want to say must be going on a date lah!”

Iceman kept quiet at her statement. that led to this deep sinking feeling within me. i kept up my smiles and continued teasing Iceman… but sadly, i couldn’t fish any more info out of him. that night, on the way back, i sms’d saying that i didn’t need him to tell me what stage he and “that gal” were at, but i just wanted to know a yes or no question – was he interested in her?

Iceman’s reply was, if i were the good friend that i’m supposed to be, i would stop asking. he said, “since when have i not told u when something does happen?”.  i was greatly disappointed by his reply.  i was upset that all this while, i thought he was busy when his replies on MSN were slow… and that he was caught up with his studies and was not avoiding me… there was perhaps, another gal.

i moped at home the next day, listening to the song “I’ll Be Okay” by Amanda Marshall.  hey, the reason why i loved the movie My Best Friend’s Wedding so much was ‘cos when i watched it with Iceman, i realised that one day, i may end up like Julianne in the movie!

finally, i managed to corner Iceman into meeting me for lunch on Sun. i really wanted to know what was happening because i never felt closer to losing someone so dear to me before. when i woke up on Sun about 12ish, i was a little happy ‘cos i thought i would finally have a chance to clarify matters with Iceman. i quickly called him to arrange lunch… but he said he already arranged to meet someone else for lunch. i asked him if it was “that gal” and he said yes. my heart sank. Iceman pressed me to tell him why i was acting funny. i really wanted to tell him how i felt there and then… but all i could muster was a “i don’t feel good about it” over MSN.

Iceman called while in the cab to meet “that gal”. he kept asking me what i meant by “i don’t feel good”… but i couldn’t bring myself to say it.  after repeated badgering, i said a one-liner. “i am jealous”. Iceman wanted me to clarify what i meant but i refused. i said i’ll tell him later… ‘cos i needed time to formulate my thoughts.

took me 30min but i sent a 4-msg sms to Iceman essentially saying that i’ve always wondered if we could be more than friends, but the logical side of me always kept my feelings in check.  took quite a bit of courage for both of us i suppose… but thank the Lord, both of us felt pretty much the same about each other.  ("that gal" was but his bro’s ex-colleague who just moved to SG and his bro asked if he could help if she needed help… not that she didn’t like him lah… but that’s another story altogether).

now… what was the thing that i said in HK that led to us almost "missing" each other again?  sigh.  on the 2nd night of our trip in HK, Iceman’s bro, in front of a whole table of people said to me, “i don’t know why my bro and u aren’t together”.  to which my fast and flippant reply was, “oh please. if your bro and i were together, it would be like incest”.

Iceman said he was stunned and extremely taken aback by my reply.  so much so that he thought i didn’t feel anything at all, and deepened his belief that we could never be more than friends.  this also led to all our photos taken thereafter to be kind of awkward – ‘cos he wanted but didn’t dare put his arm around me.  he also tried to get me to hang around for a while at Changi Airport after we got back… hoping to find an opportunity to tell me how he felt… but i rushed off ‘cos my dad was picking me up.  heh.

anyway, for the huge merry go round we’ve taken, i’m glad we’re very merry folks now.  life has been good.

MT’s Wedding

On to some nicer news, the reason why i was in KL over the New Year was ‘cos i was attending MT’s wedding.  CONGRATS MT!!  Wait… i haven’t told her about my blog.  Heh.

Oh well, here’re some pics i took.  🙂

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Patience took a ride with us up to KL.

 

 

 

 

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Crown Princess didn’t look that bad at first… before the roaches came along…

 

 

 

 

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View from the room wasn’t too bad actually.  Could see fireworks during the countdown celebration too!

 

 

 

 

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Fightking’s latest favourite eating place in KL – Restoran Overseas at Jalan Imbi.  The char siew is the ABSOLUTE BEST!  Here’s a pic of Iceman tucking in… oh wait.. that’s the "bighead prawn"… the Char Siew disappeared before i could take a pic of it during the dinner.

 

 

 

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KLCC.  Nice pic right?  Postcard worthy hor?

 

 

 

 

 

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Dancequeen & me

 

 

 

 

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I loved the ballroom – especially the Christmas lights hanging at the curtains against the wall…

(Hotel  Nikko)

 

 

 

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I look like a Vietnamese bride hor?  Heh.. but i high class.  Euros 10k please…

 

 

 

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A nice display at the hotel.

 

 

 

 

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The luxurious toilet bowl at Hotel Nikko

 

 

 

 

 

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Fantastic laska place at Segambut.  Oysters, clams, prawns, cuttlefish… sedap!

 

 

 

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This is how the sambal is stirred!  I bet u it’s the branch that gives it that extra oomph!

 

 

 

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A cheery Christmas display at The Curve (atas shopping centre in KL).

 

 

 

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Iceman and i went to Restoran Overseas for lunch before we left KL.  This time, i managed to get a shot of the Char Siew… heh.

 

 

 

Love the food in KL.. heh… don’t like the shopping though.  Didn’t buy anything – ‘cos i don’t like the local fashion, and the international brands carries the same stuff as the shops in Singapore.  🙂

Crown Princess Hotel (KL)

Stayed at the Crown Princess KL over the new year.  The place SUCKS!  So heed my advice and don’t EVER stay there.  Here’s why it sucks…

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The first time i saw a baby roach in the toilet, i thought never mind, it’s an old hotel, so finding 1 roach might’ve been something inevitable, and i decided to let it pass.

But when i found another 3 roaches on the morning that i was checking out, i thought that was just too much.  This hotel has totally failed my hygiene standards!

01012008164 The service by the hotel staff wasn’t very good either.  The breakfast venue was way too under-staffed – only 2 waiters to oversee the entire place.  And the 2 waiters were really inefficient too.  They would clear plates from a table, then get distracted and started clearing bowls from another table, and before they were done with the 2nd table, moved onto a 3rd table to clear cups.  This resulted in ALL the untaken tables  being half cleared, and people who came into the breakfast venue had no place to sit.

01012008165 Oh… and before i forget… the bedsheets and towels were also stained.  I believe they were washed… but shouldn’t hotels stop using those that have stains that couldn’t be removed?  Just terrible!  ARGH!

I want to post a negative review about the hotel on asiarooms.com (booked the hotel from that website) but couldn’t find the link to post reviews.  I’ve emailed asiarooms.com about this review issue… hope they reply soon!

Anyway, here’s a belated Happy New Year to everyone.  🙂

Advertlets Cock Up

Apologies people.  Haven’t accessed my blog the past week ‘cos i was very busy at work.  Visited my blog just now and kept getting diverted to another site.  Then i noticed it said, "domain expired".  Did a search on Technorati and found out that advertlets.com, the site i was using for banner ads, forgot to renew their domain.  How screwed up is that man!  An online company forgetting to renew its domain?!  Good grief!

Anyway, i hate to say this but… it HAD to be a m’sian company to have this sort of screw up lor.  Sigh.  Incredible man!

For more details, please read this.