Reason, Season or a Lifetime

Deborah Szekely, one of my favourite WCS teachers shared this on FB. I like it a lot.


People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

– author unknown

Katong Convent

So… my secondary school’s going to be torn down and rebuilt and I see tons of posts on the KC FB group reminiscing about the school. Unfortunately, I don’t have much attachment to the school. Sure, my closest friend remains a classmate of mine from Sec 1 but we’ve both been excluded from all class reunions the past couple of years so there’s really not much to hold onto. Hahaha.

I then started thinking, has there been any life changing lesson learnt in KC? Indeed, there’s one. I remember because we were the top class in KC, the teachers and discipline mistress pretty much left us alone to our own devices. Even if we came down late for assembly, etc, no punishment was ever meted out to us. A Normal stream class could have come down just before us and they would be scolded and even punished. So what’s the lesson here?

Well, when you’re at the top of the game, management will leave you alone. Definitely rings true in the corporate world! Meet your budgets and nobody will come bother you.

The KC education has served me well! :p


Friends and colleagues have been asking me how was my London/ Paris trip and how was it like to meet up with my London colleagues. I have so far always hesitated before saying, “not bad” and that’s cos I haven’t been able to verbalise the mixed feelings I had within me.

Meeting up with the original team was great. The colleagues were kind and made sure I was well taken care of. Unfortunately, I also crossed paths with a few people who made my life miserable in my previous company. Although we barely acknowledged one another, knowing that I’m going to have to deal with them, again, brings much grief.

Sigh. As the saying goes, 兵来将挡,水来土掩。