I was in a dilemma whether to attend an old friend’s wedding dinner coming up in Nov. When he first told me about it, I was quite looking forward to it. I like attending wedding dinners. I feel it’s an honour to be invited and I’m always happy that friends (especially those I used to be close to but don’t talk much to anymore) remember me. The dilemma I faced with attending this old friend’s wedding is that I’m not close to anyone else on his guest list… and I only found this out in church today, after I had agreed to go.
I thought about it while driving home from church today… but eventually concluded that when I attend a wedding dinner, it’s ‘cos I’m happy for the bride/groom and the rest of the guests shouldn’t matter – unless my attendance poses a problem in terms of seating arrangement.
So the matter was settled within mind till my friend came online and asked if I still wanted to attend the dinner since the other 2 people he initially planned to seat me with weren’t going. I thought about it… and asked if it would be a problem slotting me into a table. He said it wouldn’t be. So I thought about it a bit more and later sent him an sms to say "Yes, I’ll be going".
My friend then replied, "You sure?". Now this threw me off guard… er, maybe he was being polite and was actually trying to hint that he was having problems seating me?
I replied saying, "Eh… Your question very odd. I’m neutral. I’ll just attend your church wedding then".
My friend then explained that he just wanted me to feel comfortable and didn’t want me to feel obliged about going. I told him that I’m not the type to do things out of obligation and am happy to attend an old friend’s wedding – be it church, dinner, or both. What was more of a concern to me is that I don’t mess up his table arrangement (which I attest, can be a real pain).
In the end, I thought about it for another 2 seconds… and sent another sms to say that my final decision would be to attend the church wedding only.
My friend’s reply was, "Final decision ah?". Aiyoh… I tell you… nearly fainted. Say yes also kena questioned. Say no also kena questioned. I replied, "Yes Boss!". That ended the dilemma.
Actually, I very much want to be part of an old friend’s wedding celebrations. But I don’t want to be a sore thumb in the table arrangements either. Weddings are difficult enough to plan already without well-meaning guests posing more problems in spite of their good intentions.
I hope my own table arrangements will go on smoothly next year!