Got this in the email today.  Heh.  Good, sound advice.  😛


If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.  If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.  Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be.

Slower is better.  Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends”.  A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.

Don’t settle.  If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don’t stay because you think, “it will get better”.  You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

You cannot change a man’s behavior.  Change comes from within.

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.  He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

Never let a man know everything.  He will use it against you later.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.  If something bothers you, speak up.

Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are, even if he has more education or is in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.  He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else’s man.  If he cheated with you he’ll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

You should not be the one doing all the bending… compromise is a two way street.

You need time to heal between relationships.  There is nothing cute about baggage.  Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you.  A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals.  Look for someone complimentary not supplementary.

All men are NOT dogs.

Dating is fun… even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.

Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always knows where you are, and you’re always readily available to him – he takes it
for granted.

Never co-sign for a man.

Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need.

“They say it takes only a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them and a day to love them.  But it takes an entire lifetime to forget them.”
– Unknown


I don’t think it takes an entire lifetime to forget someone special lah.. maybe just a decade.  Haha.

1 Response to “Men”

  1. 1 Iceman

    U know, I have to say most of the statements quite true but have to add that it works both ways, applies to women as well I suppose.

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January 2007