Married Life?

There’s one question that I get posed quite often – “how’s married life?”.  I seriously don’t know what sort of answers these people are expecting.  I mean, married or not, life goes on right?  I don’t think a couple’s life will have any major adjustments till a kid comes along – and for the record, I still find kids very dirty and unhygienic.

While in the shower tonight, I thought about this question “how’s married life” again, after an ex-colleague sent an sms asking me earlier this evening.  I guess there’ll always be some quirks that need adjusting to but that’s about it.  The quirks can be quite funny though!

For example, I have an obsession with keeping the bedroom doors closed.  This is because I switch on the aircon every night and thus I’m very paranoid about leaking the cool air out.  I also worry about condensation forming on the airconditioning unit and therefore I keep my bedroom doors shut even after the aircon is switched off.  Lastly, I recall my dad’s teaching that if you can keep the cool air in the room as much as possible, the next time you switch on the aircon, it wouldn’t have to work so hard to cool down the room, thus saving energy.

Iceman, however, having been used to not sleeping in an airconditioned room, tends to leave the doors ajar sometimes.  Sometimes it’s ‘cos he’s only going out of the bedroom to get something, sometimes the door just didn’t get shut tight.  As a result, I always end up closing all the doors (i.e. our 2 bedroom doors & 1 toilet door) that I find open.  I found this troublesome initially but have concluded that since I’m the one with the obsession, I should be the one taking action.

Iceman’s quirk relates to electricity usage.  He likes to switch off the mains of our TV, Mio player, Starhub box, broadband modem, etc.  His reasoning is that this helps avoid vampire electricity usage and thus saves on electrical bills.  While I totally agree that cutting down the electricity bill is good, I find it too troublesome to switch off and on these mains on a daily basis because we use these appliances every day!  Anyway, Iceman doesn’t bug me about switching the mains off and he does it so I guess that works out ok too.

Heh. So that’s the main adjustments I guess… nothing major.. just kind of amusing.  🙂

From A to B

I used to nag a lot at Iceman’s driving – don’t brake so late, don’t reverse so fast, signal before you turn, etc.  Thankfully, Iceman didn’t complain about my nagging and I eventually found myself sounding very irritating so I stopped.  I also figured that like what happened to me, one will learn to drive more gently after a few knocks to the car. 

I had my fair share of knocks during my first year of driving.  My dad’s poor old Audi A6 suffered a bad scratch across the front left bumper and 2 knocks from me parking the car at I can’t remember which carpark now.  I also suffered a few near misses on the AYE (nearly kissed the backside of the car in front) and that sure taught me to not tailgate!  Since then, I’ve driven 2 of my dad’s Volkswagen Passats (past & present car), my own Nissan Sunny and our current Latio & Kia Rio and there hasn’t been one incident in the last 9 years to boot!  I thus concluded that if Iceman’s handling of the car were really as risky as I felt it was, a couple of knocks to the Latio would rectify it.

We’ve owned the Latio for close to a year now and I’m happy to share that it’s been kept in a relatively pristine condition.  Iceman has taken over as the regular driver of the Latio since our wedding last Aug and apart from scratching the metal part of the wheel (the axle?) from parking too close to the kerb and reversing into our first floor neighbour’s laundry stand (albeit no damage sustained), there have been no other incidents – till today.  We went to Margaret Drive for dinner and Iceman parked the car front in.  I was waiting by the pavement while Iceman adjusted the car to be properly within the lot when I suddenly saw the car sort of surge forward a little too quickly.  The front bumper of the car knocked into the kerb and plant holder close to it, and sustained some scratches (not that serious).

I was pretty ok about it but Iceman was quite upset (he takes very good car of the car – vacuuming it, taking it for regular polishing, etc).  He said he didn’t understand how it happened ‘cos he didn’t step on the accelerator and the car sort of just sped forward.  He later said he could have been distracted by the car next to him but I guess everything happened too quickly to be absolutely certain.  In any case, I asked Iceman during dinner if it might help if he parked a little slower.  Iceman, however, said that this incident was an anomaly and so changing his driving / parking style would not help.  He reiterated that the passenger will always feel that the driver is driving too fast ‘cos the passenger is unaware of the driver’s intentions, i.e. when he intends to brake, turn, etc.  I suppose Iceman has a point though I thought my clean driving / parking track record also lends some weight to my theory about toning down the speed.

Whatever the case, a car, to me, is just a vehicle to get you from point A to point B.  As long as the driver and passengers are safe, what’s a couple of knocks right?